5 Misconceptions I Believed About Motherhood Before I Became a Mother

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I was judgmental before I became a mom. There I said it. It’s a little liberating to admit that. In my Master’s program, I remember a classmate talking about how exasperated she was with her 2 year old. She was tired after a long day of  work, then her evening ended with homework and a non-cooperative two year old.Her toddler refused to stay in bed and she often vented to our group about her efforts.

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Me, being the naive 23 year old that I was, asked, why don’t you just tell her to get back in bed?

DEFINITELY THE WRONG THING TO SAY!

At the time I didn’t understand the daggers that she shot me, but since becoming a mom, I have more than eaten those words. Here are a few misconceptions that I had before having kids:

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How to Love Your Kids When They’re Driving You Crazy

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Happy Valentines Day! I hope those of you with children had a kid free night one day this weekend.

At times, our house is a little too chaotic.  Daphne is 2 and reminds us daily of her need to be in control. Melody is 4 and likes to remind Daphne that she is the boss.  I love my kids, but at times they drive me crazy! Does anyone else feel this way? What can you do when you need a break? Here are a few tips:

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How to Calm the Christmas Crazy

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Christmas is my favorite time of the year. The lights. The food. Two weeks off from work. Christmas pajamas. More time with family. Christmas carols. The nativity scene. Watching the kids rip open their presents.

What I don’t love is what it does to my kids after Christmas is over. The late nights with family mean too much sugar, and not enough sleep. What do you do after you’ve eaten too much and your kids are way too stimulated? I’m so glad you asked!

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To Offend or Not to Offend

**This post was published by the Huffington Post as How Not to Offend Mixed Race Families. **

To Offend or Not to Offend

My first experience with a biracial individual was in 5th grade. Our teacher was doing a race count for FTE funding (schools get more money based on the number of minority students they have). Our teacher called out all the different races, then got mad when she counted and realized someone didn’t raise their hand. She said very loudly, “Who didn’t raise their hand?” (We’ll call his name Jason) Jason said, “I didn’t.” She then screamed at him, “Why not?” To which he replied, I’m not sure which one to pick (black or white). She screamed back, “just pick one!”

At the time, I didn’t realize how damaging this conversation was. It was insensitive of the teacher  to demand him to pick one race, when he was clearly a combination of two. How mortifying it must have been for him to have this identity crisis in front of all of his peers and teachers. This anecdote is an extreme example, but some people just don’t know what to say without being offensive.  I came up with a small list to help.

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Madagascar, Tangled & Cobb Salad

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Remember my last post where I discussed my “mom” outfit? I was definitely not taking fashion advice from the hubby. Guess what? When I got ready to take a shower later that evening, I realized that my pants were inside out. #fail #inarush #oops #notthefirsttimethatshappened #nexttimeslowdown #hashtagsgettinglongerandlonger  #ithinkididbettertoday #thatsapeartreeinouryard

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Was that hashtag overload? I hope not. I remember the first time I saw a series of hashtags. I thought it was a bit much. Now, I just think they’re fun. I love watching The Braxton Family Values because Tamar uses hashtag in everyday language. If you haven’t seen it, you’re missing out. It reminded me of why I always wanted a sister growing up.

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