This month has been a busy one so far. In my last post, I wrote about the passing of my father in law. Click here to read all about it. Since then, both of my daughters got pink eye, my husband & I got the sniffles, and I picked up some nasty virus that made me sick as a dog. In between all that, I’ve been networking with other bloggers via Facebook and Instagram. What fun!
This week, I am pleased to have a guest post from Kwame Whyte.
- Let her voice her opinions. Kids know what they like and dislike. Give them an opportunity to speak without interruption. Don’t take their disagreeing with you personally. After all, you raised them to be their own person.
- Listen to her feedback. I’m laughing while I type this because I wish I had just shut up and listened sooner. Thankfully, I learned this lesson before her teenage years. Listening without judgement is the reason we are a close mother/daughter team now. I’m happy that she talks to me and trusts me enough to share her dreams and fears. To think if I hadn’t silenced my ego, I would’ve missed this.
- Let her make her own fashion decisions. Now this is still hard, because girls clothing is mostly tight and short. As a result, they can be sexualized by the media, their peers and even adults. But I’ve learned how to be supportive, and trust that she’ll respect herself like I’ve taught her. So far it’s worked, and she makes her own decisions about clothing. She just wants to look pretty and comfortable. I love this kid!
- Respect her feelings. As her mom, you may disagree with her reaction to a situation but its important to remember that we cannot tell anyone how to they should feel. Her feelings are her own. If she wants to be sad, I let her be sad while providing her with comfort. I’ve learned never to tell to stop crying, stop whining, or to get over it.
- Give her room to fail. This is especially important when you have a toddler whose go to phrase is “I do it Mommy!” As long as what she wants to do isn’t endangering herself or someone else, let her do it. When she needs your help, guess what? She’ll come to you and ask for it.
- Between elementary and high school, girls self-esteem drops 3.5 times more than boys.
- By middle school, girls are 25% less likely than boys to say they like taking the lead.